Hello lovelies, my name is Emily, but who am I?
A few years ago I would have answered that question by telling you I was married, I had a bunch of kids, I was a former Marine, and I homeschooled. Fact was I was a pretty empty shell of a person. My mouth smiled, but it rarely spread to my eyes. I always answered the question “how are you ?” with “Great!”, then felt sick inside because I knew it was a lie. I spent many nights awake staring at the ceiling wondering why I felt so empty. I spent my days cooking, cleaning, booger wiping, diaper changing, and doing everything else to take care of my family. No matter how hard I worked I felt like a failure because I never got my to do list done. I often simply gave up and did nothing other than the necessities to keep my kids alive because why bother when you are just going to fail anyway?
After a particularly rough few months where I thought I was about to lose my marriage I said enough is enough. It’s time to take care of me. It’s time for me to figure out exactly who I am and what I want out of life. It’s time for me to find joy in the journey. Life is still hard, and I still have my bad days, just like anyone else, but I have been able to find joy, save my marriage, and most of all save myself.
So really, who am I?
I am maternal. Not only am I the mother of my own large brood (8 and counting!), but I truly love to nurture those around me. It fills my bucket to help you fill yours. I am the shoulder you can cry on. The gentle voice that will soothe your fears. Don’t underestimate my ability to go full on mama bear when someone I love is threatened or hurt. I believe there is nobility in motherhood and that the most important, difficult, and rewarding work you will ever do will be within the walls of your own home.
I am intimate. Now get your mind out of the gutter, I’m not talking sexy here! I want to know you. I want to understand what makes you tick. I want to be emotionally connected to everyone close to me. I want to understand myself and be able to share every part of me with the people who I love. I believe that the best relationships are built on deep, honest, personal connection.
I am Impulsive. Please, please, please do not ever ask me to create a schedule or plan out my weekly menu in advance. I can get behind routines and general plans, but you will never find me getting into the nitty-gritty details and stressing over how every five minutes are spent. I need to be free to throw everyone in the car and head out to the park on a moment’s notice when I get sick of being at home. I put the pro in procrastination. It drives my mom batty, but I really do my best work under pressure. I believe in taking action; when it’s right it’s right, so jump in with both feet and get swimming.
Thank you for joining me on deep thoughts by Emily, now for the fun stuff! I really can not resist a cold Vanilla Coke, even though I always regret it when I have heartburn an hour later. I have always loved fashion, but never had the “skill” (oh the lies I told myself out of fear!) or money to really have fun with it. Now I’m jumping all in and having so much fun actually getting dressed every day…ok most days. I sincerely believe that ducks are the coolest animal on the planet. I have also always loved art, but once again told myself it was a skill I didn’t have. Part of rediscovering my own muchness has been experimenting with many art forms including zentangle, calligraphy, photography, graphic design and my definite favorite: digital painting. I really like public speaking; my dream job would be to travel the country giving motivational speeches to women. I detest coffee, yes I know this will alienate most of you, but please forgive me. The smell alone makes me turn a bit green. Shhh, but I’ll let you in on one last little secret: I have an alter ego, Super Womb-an, you can read more about her here.